The moment your baby enters the world should be the warmest welcome possible into your family. A good experience for you, your partner and your new baby. I would love to support you and help you prepare for a safe, memorable and empowering birthing experience.
Giving birth in another country than your own can create uneasiness and confusion. Understanding why the norms are so different and knowing what to expect can make a huge difference to your birthing experience abroad. My desire is to help parents from all cultures, who call The Netherlands their home away from home, to have a memorable birthing experience.
The role of the Doula is never to take the place of the husband or partner in labour but to compliment and enhance their experience. With a Doula as part of the birth team, a father can do whatever he feels comfortable with at each moment. Having a Doula releases the father to be fully present and to enjoy one of the most amazing moments of his life. A partner often feels more relaxed if he doesn’t feel the total responsibility resting on his shoulders.
In order to feel comfortable about having me as your birth support, it is very important that it clicks between us and that your partner is comfortable with me being at the birth too. During the first meeting we will get to know each other a bit. You can express what your expectations are and ask any questions you may have.
If you decide to have me as your doula we will meet two or three more times to talk more specifically about your desires for the birth. During this time we will talk about the choices and options for birth and learn more about the birthing process. There is room to process any fears and insecurities you may have and plenty of space to learn different methods to help you relax during labour. I also help you create a birth plan with your wishes for the birth. Hopefully you will gain confidence and feel more prepared as the birth approaches.
As the due date gets closer our contact will intensify. I will be available by phone, text and email during this time to answer questions or discuss any developments that may arise in pregnancy. I will officially be on call for you from week 37. If you go into labour earlier I will, to the best of my ability, be available. I work with a back-up doula, though rarely necessary.
When you go into labour, whether it’s during the day or in the middle of the night, I will come to wherever you are, at home or at the hospital. I will strive to be present within an hour. No matter how long you labour I will stay with you till the baby is born and you are well settled. During delivery, I will be a constant support and in close proximity to the mother at all times. My job is defined by your needs. I will encourage relaxation and a positive birthing environment, massage and breathing techniques and whatever it takes to decrease the discomforts of labour. The midwife or gynecologist will intermittently monitor your progress. They are the ones who are medically responsible for the birth of your baby. We all work together to ensure a good and safe birthing experience.
In the week following the birth I will visit you to make sure you are doing well, to admire your little one and to talk through the birth experience. Before the baby is a month old I will visit again to wrap up our time together and process further if needed.
The cost of a consultation is €50. If you hire me within two weeks of the meeting this cost is not invoiced.
“My first birth was a natural one and went pretty much according to my birth plan: in a hospital (in case something would go wrong), but delivering with a midwife, moving freely, trying out different positions, using a bath tub, and then delivering on all four. Doula’s support was great, massaging me and reducing back pain of contractions, providing birth chair, mama tens, giving me strength when I would feel weak, confidence to continue naturally, arranging the bath for me and making it relaxing with dimmed lights and candles. Pushing went very fast and our little girl came out looking great and with a lovely pinkish hue. My second birth was very different. I was diagnosed with HELLP syndrome and had to first be in the hospital for few days to get better, before they could even induce the birth. So the birth was fully medical, I had IV in both hands, two catheters, and the only position possible for birthing was lying on bed with very limited movement. Even though we hired Sophie for the first birth we were doubting if we needed a doula present for the second birth as we were expecting another natural uncomplicated birth experience. But luckily we decided to have Sophie because having a doula by my side actually made even more difference than with the fully natural birth. Being stuck to bed and with tubes coming out of me, having my husband and doula to massage me, share the words of encouragement and even joke a bit, made the whole experience a lot more intimate and positive. In spite of all the pain and swelling, I managed to give birth pretty quickly, with no pain killers, allowing my little boy to come to world and start his life in the best possible way.“
I look back at my birth experience knowing that we made the best decisions every time we had to make a hard choice. It wasn’t what I had hoped would happen, but life rarely goes the way we plan. I have a lot of peace about the experience. I wanted a doula to help me have a natural labor, but it turned out having a doula for the reality we faced- a failed induction ending in a c-section- was perhaps more important because it was so emotionally challenging and unexpected. You were so worth the investment. The return was immeasurable. Having your support leading up to the birth (especially because I went 11 days past my due date, and had to be induced) helped me stay sane. Having your support the day our son was born was more helpful than we could have known. We’re so thankful for you!