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Healing after a traumatic premature birth

Healing after a traumatic premature birth

I met Tanya at a Confident Birth course I was giving for Birth in Holland when she was pregnant with her first baby. Her first baby was born prematurely at 34 weeks and was a very traumatic experience for her. It was an experience that brought her PTSD and many months of struggling to recover. more »

The Ultimate Story

The Ultimate Story

The full package: When your doula can document the whole story and doula you too! Expecting a sister. Sis is on the way Jul really wanted to have a home birth with her oldest daughter present. Because of a medical indication from her last birth she needed to have the baby in the hospital. After more »

Virtual doula support  – Thanks to Covid-19

Virtual doula support – Thanks to Covid-19

Who would ever have known that would become a thing? I often meet new clients and fall in love. Like often! I walk out of their home and have a real sense of yes!! I like them, I am so looking forward to supporting them, how lucky am I to get to meet so many more »

The relief & the joy!

The relief & the joy!

A strong bond in utero! They always told me they knew she was a strong one. When this little one was showing us she didn’t like what was going on during the labour and started reacting to the situation, with a high heart rate, her parents connected with her and literally talked her heartbeat to more »

Pivot with patience!

Pivot with patience!

At 36 weeks M was looking forward to some relaxed weeks preparing for the arrival of her first baby. Just after finishing all her work, on the last day before her maternity leave, the waters broke. Labour did not kick in but there were some contractions. After a week of waiting it out at home more »

When your waters break and the baby kind of falls out!

When your waters break and the baby kind of falls out!

In the early hours of the morning she found herself getting in and out of bed because of a few cramps. She was not sure if this the real deal or not. The contractions were regular. Her husband got out of bed after two hours and quickly called the grandparents to come to be at more »

A beautiful fast water birth

A beautiful fast water birth

As I have said many times, I love it when clients come back tome for a second or third birth. This couple did not know any friends back in Turkey who had a vaginal birth. All cesarean births!! With their first baby they decided to go for a home water birth and their son was more »

Born in the caul!

Born in the caul!

I stepped inside the door and she was already in deep labour. She was very relaxed, seemingly in control (and I say seemingly because I know it didn’t feel that way to her) and the intensity was high. I was just there to photograph this time. So I unpacked my camera, gave a hug and more »

Giving birth in your very own living room.

Giving birth in your very own living room.

Being asked to photograph a midwifes birth is always such an honour. I am always thrilled to lay down my doula role now and then to focus on documenting the story of midwives and their families. On a beautiful May morning I got the call that contractions had started. When I arrived, I walked in more »

Clients first, family second?

Clients first, family second?

Never again! When I missed my sons graduation for a birth, some years ago, I said to myself never again! Never again would I sacrifice a family life event for a clients birth no matter how torn I felt. This year my husband turned 50. He wanted to celebrate in style so we planned a more »

Can a doula give unbiased & biased support at the same time?

Can a doula give unbiased & biased support at the same time?

Definition of unbiased  1: free from bias: especially : free from all prejudice and favouritism Adjective – un·​bi·​ased | \ˌən-ˈbī-əst \ Definition of nonjudgmental  1: avoiding judgments based on one’s personal and especially moral standards Adjective –  non·​judg·​men·​tal | \ˌnän-ˌjəj-ˈmen-tᵊl \ The answer is easy. A doula is unbiased and nonjudgemental in her support of the choices more »

TENS machine for labour and beyond.

TENS machine for labour and beyond.

Most of my clients use the TENS machine. See here for an explanation of how the TENS works. The use of the TENS is hugely under-rated for early labour, during active labour and I discovered recently that it is also awesome for post birth contractions! Many insurance companies will cover the cost of the TENS machine more »

A mothers reflection – The birth of Irina

A mothers reflection – The birth of Irina

A mothers reflection on her home birth “When I look back on my birthing experience I feel strong and proud. A sense of awe for life, for the female body, for my body. Awe for how I carried my daughter for 9 months and for how I brought her into this world: all the pain, more »

A Surrogate Journey ~ the birth of Liv

A Surrogate Journey ~ the birth of Liv

A Surrogate Journey For some women it’s a way to give back and make a difference in the world in a meaningful way. For others it’s a calling. Some are moved to surrogacy by knowing someone who is faced with infertility and this is their way of helping. Some want to experience growing new life more »

Turbo vaginal breach birth story: “Its 8cm, going vaginal!”

Turbo vaginal breach birth story: “Its 8cm, going vaginal!”

11-05-2017 ~ I had just finished catching up on some sleep, after a long birth, when at 9am I got a text message from Mayana saying she was feeling a lot of pain and some contractions. Mayana was 36 weeks and 4 days pregnant so it was a little on the early side plus her more »

“Dear Nan, no I am not disappointed in you!” Love from Doula Sophie

“Dear Nan, no I am not disappointed in you!” Love from Doula Sophie

Dear Nan, As you prepared for the birth of your son, you came to understand that birth is never a straight forward line but that birth has many twists and turns along the way and the labour process is very much a journey. You knew I would be there for you wherever the journey took more »

Having your children at your birth

Having your children at your birth

Has your child ever toned interest in seeing your baby be born? Is it tough for you to find childcare for your other child(ren) while you give birth? Would you like to give your child(ren) the gift of seeing a sibling being born? Whatever your reasons for considering having your child(ren) at the birth of more »

My failed VBAC was still a success

My failed VBAC was still a success

What were the circumstances that led to your c-section with your first birth? “With my first birth, I knew I wanted a natural birth and I never really thought I would be one of the unlucky ones to need a C-section! I was quite naive and thought if I just go with the flow, everything more »

VBAC after a breech caeserean ~ A personal interview

VBAC after a breech caeserean ~ A personal interview

  I met Vanessa and her husband when they took a private birth course with me for their first baby. She had complete faith that she could birth her baby naturally and really wanted to birth at home. What were the circumstances that led to your c-section? At around week 35 I found out that more »

Water ~ One of the most underestimated forms of pain relief

Water ~ One of the most underestimated forms of pain relief

When you discovered you were pregnant and you started thinking about the birth of your baby did you think about water as an option for pain management? You would not be alone if your answer was no! The benefits are huge. Placing a pool of water in a birth room changes the atmosphere immediately. Voices more »

Where and with whom can I have a water birth?

Where and with whom can I have a water birth?

The answer to that question is not as simple as it maybe should be. There are different birthing facilities that facilitate a water birth. You can rent a birthing pool and plan on a home birth, you can take a rented pool to a birthing centre or use an existing pool in a hospital facility. more »

How does a water birth work?

How does a water birth work?

How to mentally prepare for a birth in water Firstly, you need to prepare your mind. Examine your own motivations, incentives and expectations for wanting a water birth. Ask yourself what made you decide to have a water birth and why – is it something you are doing for yourself or are you doing it more »

Top tips for a successful water birth

Top tips for a successful water birth

Tips for water birth in general Know that at any time the situation can change and you may need to let go of your dream water birth. Hold the dream lightly so you can let go of it at any moment yet at the same time prepare well so you know you have done all more »

Essentials that contributed to my VBAC

Essentials that contributed to my VBAC

Good and thorough preparation: Being committed to practicing my Hypnobabies, practicing positivity and doing my research. My Birth Team: My doula who listened to me and processed my first birth with me for 2 years (above and beyond) through post traumatic stress and my desires and fears to have a second baby. She stayed with more »

Angela’s VBAC interview

Angela’s VBAC interview

The struggles and the victories! What were the circumstances that led to your c-section? I was induced at 39 weeks for suspected big baby due to diabetes (despite several negative tests results). For three days I got prostaglandin pills and membrane sweep but never went further than one cm dilation. The medical staff decided to more »

My fears of choosing a cesarean section

My fears of choosing a cesarean section

Angela’s email continued: Read the first part here “In general, a C-section seems to me a weird way of giving birth. A woman is about to experience one of the strongest transitions in her life and we add to this, a major abdominal surgery, which persé is a difficult operation to go through. After such more »

My VBAC fears

My VBAC fears

I really do want to birth vaginally… or do I? When Angela was 2 months pregnant she sent me an email that read like this. Angela wrote: “I started to list the main fears that I have when thinking of a VBAC. While I read it back I thought “OMG I have so many fears, more »

Vaginal birth after a traumatic c-section

Vaginal birth after a traumatic c-section

07-04-2016 ~ Two years ago these two became a family in a very different way than they had planned. I met Angela and Marco when they attended The Confident Birth Course while pregnant with their first child. Coming from Italy they were clear at first they would have much preferred to give birth via a more »

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